It must just be me. It might only be me. I am thinking that no one would actually be dumb enough to admit that. Especially in this day and age where our actions are mostly directed by popular opinion. Where we celebrate our victories in glorious triumph and hide our shame, unless of course someone else sees it and actually posts it and record it for the world to see. The point is that no one would willingly admits their flaws and failures for the world to see. Everyone, everyone is on the lookout not to be the next laughing stock or meme.
Speaking of, I recently saw a video where the famous actor, legend, Will Smith, was speaking, and he said that as difficult as it was forgiving someone, it was more difficult to hold it against someone you love. I am paraphrasing of course. You guessed it, this is about love. I know, really tiring. Just bare with me.
Unrequited love, is basically loving someone who can’t or won’t love you back. Imagine that, loving someone who doesn’t even care if you exist. Giving you all to someone who won’t even look twice in your direction. Or better yet, and this is my favorite, loving someone who is in love with someone else. Even the thought of it is painful. And the most difficult part for most of us to understand, is how are we supposed to accept such a dynamic. It certainly seems unhealthy. It certainly seems pointless to be in such an unbalanced ‘relationship’.
But in alot of ways, I do understand it. I think the difficult part in all of it is the expectation that maybe just maybe there is hope that they will feel the same way. It’s the hope that kills you I guess. Stay with me here, what if some one loved you, without conditions, someone was just there no questions asked, someone who would give the world, without expecting anything, not even a single thing. That sure does seem too good to be true.
But here is the thing, it is possible. I have learnt , in fact, that there is no greater feeling than just giving. It is so exhilarating, just giving, knowing that there is no ill willed intention, but just loving. No expectation of reciprocation, no expectation whatsoever. I recently came across a quote from a famous poet, I cant really remember his name. “What business is it of yours if i love you?”
It is probably not normal, but I believe that unrequited love is a gateway to what we all want, unconditional love. But we all look for it with our our own conditions. It is weird actually I admit, but instead of looking for love why don’t we try and give it. And with no expectation at all. Unrequited.
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